An Attitude of Gratitude

One thing I believe in wholeheartedly is living your life with an attitude of gratitude.  Our society, thanks largely in part to social media, has created a culture of dissatisfaction sprinkled with some envy that leaves people wanting more and making choices that are not always wise and best for their current situation. We fail to look at everything we have around us, all of our blessings, small and large; focusing only on what we don’t have that others do.

It can be hard to change a mindset that you have been been living in for such a long time. I totally get that. It takes time and intention to reverse your thoughts to truly love your life and find gratitude in everything.  One way I have found incredibly impactful is keeping a gratitude journal.  A gratitude journal can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be.  Here are a few options:

  1. Grab a cute blank journal at Target and write 3-5 things you’re grateful for at the beginning or end of each day.
  2. If you are already journaling add your 3-5 items to your current daily journal entry.
  3. Get an adorbs gratitude journal like the one pictured.  You can find them at any bookstore, Amazon, etc.  (This is my preference and I purchased the pictured one through Amazon.)

Your gratitude items do not need to be huge.  Certainly they can be, but not necessary.  One day could read as easy as “I’m grateful for a cup of fresh hot coffee, the birds I hear through my window when I wake up, and Grey’s Anatomy.”

You won’t see an instant change, like everything it will take some time and intentionality.  With consistency you will notice a change in your heart and attitude towards life.   So stop looking at everyone’s highlight reel on social media and start paying more attention to what you have around you.  I know you can and I know you will be so much happier for it.

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Michael Goes to Therapy

This past week was Michael’s first therapy session.  I was so nervous for like two days before it I couldn’t stand it.  I don’t even know why!  I guess no one thinks it’s quite “normal” to take a 5 year old to therapy and most parents never think they will need to take their young one to therapy but I felt it was best to be proactive rather than reactive.  So what I didn’t envision until the teen years jumped ahead a bit.

I did a lot of research to find someone who has worked with the type of scenarios we are working through and was thankfully able to find someone close to home.  I explained to Michael we were going to talk to a nice person to help us make sure we are doing all we can to ensure his happiness.  I reminded him that Patrick had to go to therapy a lot, which he certainly remembers, so he would realize there are different types of therapy and everyone needs help sometimes.  Mommy and Daddy have been to therapy too!

Donned in his new favorite black sequin jeans and his fave pink zip up hoodie with black cats we entered this new season.  Michael is so perceptive and in tune with things.  I knew that no matter what I said he was going to be nervous and unsure.  Thankfully he was still willing to talk but the fidgeting!  Oh the fidgeting.  He was rubbing the sequins back and forth on his pants so much I’m amazed they didn’t all fall off.  Once he was a little more comfortable he dove into the small toy box in the corner and played with everything no matter what it was.  I wanted so bad just to tell him to be still but I am sure he was so nervous and didn’t need a mom nag on top of it.

After we talked some about our concerns and why we were seeking therapy and the therapist got to know Michael a little we stepped out of the room so she could have one on one time with him.  At first Michael was scared but I was so proud of him for being so brave and willing to let mom and dad leave the room.  When we were invited back in she told us that he certainly opened up more when we were gone.  I was a little sad that he wouldn’t say some of the things to us but I’m so happy that at  least he’s talking to someone!  That’s the whole point of this right?  He started opening up about some kids at school who are not very nice to him.  Our biggest fear come to light.  She didn’t elaborate much and I’m sure it’s because she wants to build up that trust with him, I get it.  As we go we will learn more.  Baby steps.

She is going to work on coping skills with him and keep tabs on what’s going on at school and his feelings.  It’s not a situation where he needs to go every week, probably a couple times a month for now.  We just want him to have a safe space.  We want to be ahead of anything that may come up.  We want to know how to handle things as they do come up.  We want to be guided in the best way to handle family and friends who are less than supportive.  He is my beautiful sparkle boy and I do not want anyone to dull his shine.