This past week was Michael’s first therapy session. I was so nervous for like two days before it I couldn’t stand it. I don’t even know why! I guess no one thinks it’s quite “normal” to take a 5 year old to therapy and most parents never think they will need to take their young one to therapy but I felt it was best to be proactive rather than reactive. So what I didn’t envision until the teen years jumped ahead a bit.
I did a lot of research to find someone who has worked with the type of scenarios we are working through and was thankfully able to find someone close to home. I explained to Michael we were going to talk to a nice person to help us make sure we are doing all we can to ensure his happiness. I reminded him that Patrick had to go to therapy a lot, which he certainly remembers, so he would realize there are different types of therapy and everyone needs help sometimes. Mommy and Daddy have been to therapy too!
Donned in his new favorite black sequin jeans and his fave pink zip up hoodie with black cats we entered this new season. Michael is so perceptive and in tune with things. I knew that no matter what I said he was going to be nervous and unsure. Thankfully he was still willing to talk but the fidgeting! Oh the fidgeting. He was rubbing the sequins back and forth on his pants so much I’m amazed they didn’t all fall off. Once he was a little more comfortable he dove into the small toy box in the corner and played with everything no matter what it was. I wanted so bad just to tell him to be still but I am sure he was so nervous and didn’t need a mom nag on top of it.
After we talked some about our concerns and why we were seeking therapy and the therapist got to know Michael a little we stepped out of the room so she could have one on one time with him. At first Michael was scared but I was so proud of him for being so brave and willing to let mom and dad leave the room. When we were invited back in she told us that he certainly opened up more when we were gone. I was a little sad that he wouldn’t say some of the things to us but I’m so happy that at least he’s talking to someone! That’s the whole point of this right? He started opening up about some kids at school who are not very nice to him. Our biggest fear come to light. She didn’t elaborate much and I’m sure it’s because she wants to build up that trust with him, I get it. As we go we will learn more. Baby steps.
She is going to work on coping skills with him and keep tabs on what’s going on at school and his feelings. It’s not a situation where he needs to go every week, probably a couple times a month for now. We just want him to have a safe space. We want to be ahead of anything that may come up. We want to know how to handle things as they do come up. We want to be guided in the best way to handle family and friends who are less than supportive. He is my beautiful sparkle boy and I do not want anyone to dull his shine.