This was written back in 2012 on my last blog “The PCOS and Infertility Journey” and I always think about it every year before Mother’s Day. Even though I have been a mother for over 5 years now the raw feeling of empty arms still holds a place in my heart, along with all of the 1 in 8 people who are struggling through infertility. Take a moment to remember the Soon-to-be Mother’s this Mother’s Day.
I know that most women struggling with infertility absolutely dread Mother’s Day, some to the point of literally hating the holiday that praises what we so desperately want to be, so I have dubbed it not only Mother’s Day but also “Soon-to-be Mother’s Day”. I believe that Mother’s Day should incorporate all mothers, because mothers come in so many shapes and forms. Traditional mothers, foster mothers, step mothers, Godmothers, and so many more. So who’s to say an infertile mother does not count? In our infertile reality a woman who longs to have a child is as much a mother as a woman with five children. So what if we do not have an actual child to hold and care for? It is not our fault, not our choice. We would happily receive the crayola made cards and popsicle stick boxes if they existed in our world. But one day they will. So let’s focus on our mother’s and our mother-in-laws, and any other type of mother in our life. Let’s be supportive to the infertile mother’s-to-someday-be around us. And let’s remember, that although we do not have a child to hold in our arms we are no less of a mother than they.